We all know the verse, ‘For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life’. With Christ’s birthday coming up soon, I felt like I needed, no, wanted to share my story. My testimony. My own, personal, John 3:16.
I was raised in a quiet, country, small Methodist church where most of the congregation were family members to some degree. Sunday mornings in church were falling asleep in Mamaw’s lap while she rubbed my arms or hair, sticks of Juicy Fruit gum from her purse, then home cooked meals around the butcher block. Papaw was always leading prayer, singing in the choir, and joking and playing with every kid in church. Dad played in the softball league, made a few visits as Santa Claus during Christmas time, and Mom made sure we always dressed in our Sunday best and participated in every VBS and Christmas play. Music was an organ, a piano, and classic hymns. On many other Sundays, I went along with Nanny, as well as a slew of cousins, crammed into a navy blue Toyota van, ‘up on the mountain’. A Church of Christ, a little white country church with no frills. So far up Furnance Mountain that it was actually in Estill county. All wooden walls, floors, pews, two rooms, no music (voices only), and maybe 20 members, again, mostly my family. The ride was so long, but we loved it, because there was always a pit stop at Hardee’s for a breakfast biscuit to eat on the way. It seemed like such a treat. Nanny would take hymnals to work with her and run copies of the songs so she could memorize them. There were always stacks of copied hymns on her kitchen table. Throughout my childhood, I would continue to go to both churches, and ultimately be baptized through the Methodist church at 15. But once I got out on my own, church was never a priority, and I was living in Lexington, where churches were nothing like what I was used to. My relationship with the Lord, along with my faith, began to suffer, and life threw at me trials and tribulations that would make even the strongest Christian hit their knees in prayer. I went down paths that I’m ashamed to admit, hurt people I loved, and ended up with an anger toward the Lord that continued to grow stronger and stronger with each trial I faced. It’s like I driving the wrong direction down a one way street. Things that would make most people turn to the Lord, kept pushing me further and further away.
Now, let’s fast forward a few years. The only church I had attended as an adult was for a brief period while Chris and I were married at Southland Christian, which we LOVED, but soon after we moved back to Stanton. A couple years later, on occasion, I would go with my sister-in-law to their church….very hesitantly. It was an Assembly of God. Complete opposite of anything I had ever been around. I’ve known my sister-in-law Jenny for years, as our families actually go way back. My mother worked for Jenny’s grandparents in a Stanton bakery as a teenager, and grew up alongside her mother. In middle and high school, Jenny’s older sister Christy and I were best friends, and remained so throughout our college years. Then, Jenny married my brother a few years later. My reason for telling these details is this….Pentacostal people pray. They pray hard. They pray alot. Considering how well this family knows me and my struggles, it’s the least I can say to say that I’ve been prayed for A LOT for a LONG time. Christy and Jenny for years have urged me to just give their church a try, and often I would, but would almost hit the doors running by the end! Dancing, singing, speaking in tongues, fire and brimstone preaching….WHOA. A little overwhelming for this quiet, sing from the hymnal gal. So I pushed away again. No way was I ever gonna be comfortable with that. On one visit, it was July of 2013, I had just gotten with John, and him and I were leaving the next week for my ‘birthday’ trip to Myrtle Beach. Jenny always knew to kinda keep a close eye on me, because it always seemed like every time she would invite me, after explaining how it not always kinda ‘wild’, those were the mornings when the roof was blown off the place! But this particular Sunday, I sat there, quiet as usual, and toward the end of the service, a lady came to me, knelt at my feet, and asked to pray for me. She said she could just see a sadness and trouble in my eyes, and during her prayer she spoke of the troubles I had been through and for the Lord to help me with trouble that was coming. A little shaken and completely freaked out, I thanked her and remember my mom saying, ‘well now you’ll probably just have the best vacation ever.’ And we did. It was then that John and I seemed to fall in love with each other and knew we wanted to be together forever. Then, the bottom dropped out. Within a month of that day at church, my life was forever changed. It’s something I choose to keep private, but it was absolutely the worst day of my life, and I immediately thought back to that lady who had prayed over me. Trouble ahead? I thought she was crazy…but trouble surely came. That was the first incident that made me start to rethink these “crazy pentacostal” people, and that maybe I was the one who was missing out. More and more trouble came, it seems like for a full year and a half we were completely overwhelmed with it. Finances, job troubles, struggles with blending our families, health issues, a miscarriage, you name it, we faced it. It seemed as if everyone and everything, and I’ll admit I included God in it, was against us, and we had nothing for us.
Then things look up. John gets on at Transocean, family begins to settle and adjust, we start planning our September wedding with a fabulous cruise honeymoon, and things were great. And then in August, we discover we’re pregnant with our little Lincoln. I cannot explain the joy and happiness that we felt from that moment. It finally seemed like we were over our rocky road and things were going to smooth out. Of course, I spent a lot of time worrying about the pregnancy, just from the previous miscarriage, and well, if you’ve ever met me, you know I am a compulsive worrier. Always expecting the worst. I’ve always used that as a guard so that I thought I wouldn’t be so disappointed when the worst did actually happen. And for the record, it never worked. I just wasted a lot of time worrying over nothing. We all know the next piece of this story, when a few months into my pregnancy we learn of Lincoln’s heart defect. And with me being on bedrest pretty much from that point on, I had a lot of time to think. Going through worst case scenarios, studying up on his defect and what issues come along with it, I cried out to the Lord in anger and was constantly asking what we had done to deserve this. There wasn’t much praying involved, just anger. I was furious. How? Why? Hadn’t we had enough for two, three, even ten lifetimes already?
As always, Jenny and Christy both were always telling me to trust in the Lord, that the entire church was praying for us, their families were, and that I should too. One day in the hospital Christy brought me a prayer quilt from the women’s group at church, along with a book about speaking God’s word and truly believing it. She explained that the quilt was sewn with precious hands and so much love and faith and that I just needed to keep it close, and pray. Hesitantly, I did. We took that quilt to Philadelphia and kept him on it in the CTICU. And when I opened the book, just to take a glance, on the first page, in the first paragraph was this sentence, in which the author was explaining her previous outlook on life…’If I don’t expect anything good to happen to me, then I won’t be disappointed when it doesn’t’. That was exactly mine, and John’s, lifelong thought. So I started to change that. Instead of reading up on all the negatives associated with HLHS, I started to read up on the positives. The good stories, the adults living with it, the medical advances being made, and joined support groups with other moms who gave me hope. And I started to pray. I started to ASK for prayer. I finally started to feel some comfort in knowing how many people were praying for Lincoln and started to not only believe, but see with my own eyes that it was working. Just before our second trip to Philadelphia for his next open heart surgery, I took Lincoln to church, the ‘never-going-back-to-crazy-pentacostal’ church, so they could see the baby they had been praying for and to ask for prayer once again. I warned Jenny, don’t let anyone near me, no one is touching my baby, and I wasn’t going to stand up and talk or do anything to draw attention. And what happened that morning was an undeniable, palpable, direct message from God. Straight to me sitting in the back row, that I could finally…relax. Be still. He had me. He had Lincoln. The sermon seemed to be written just for me, and by the end of the service, I had Lincoln at the altar, hands being laid on him, messages spoken in a language I couldn’t understand, and a crowd of family and friends with tears flowing in praise for this baby and the miracle that he was, and is going to continue to be. The pastor gently held me close and said “God did not bring you this far to leave you now”. The relief I felt that day was like the weight of the world being lifted off my shoulders. I had no fear going into that surgery. Lincoln was fine, and was going to be. I drove to Philadelphia, just me and Lincoln, (John flew up from work a couple days later), and felt a confidence and peace that I’ve never felt. I mean really – how many of you could hop in the car with a 4 month old and drive him to Philadelphia for an open heart surgery alone? And enjoy it even? I noticed the beauty of the mountains while driving through West Virginia, the simpleness of the farmlands while driving through Amish country in Pennsylvania, and instead of being overwhelmed by the city and CHOP, being grateful that we were able to receive care in such a facility, and that in the big scheme of things, Lincoln’s heart defect was a ‘piece of cake’ to the skilled hands of his expert surgeons. It was finally okay. And I finally believed it.
This is why I consider my Lincoln, my own personal version of the scripture of John 3:16. He was sent to me, one of God’s sons, to save me. To deliver me. To remind me of my faith that I knew I had, but had just lost so long ago. My child is my miracle. Not only because of his medical issues, but because in his short little life, he has already changed mine forever. I now look forward to Sundays because I can go to church, yes, the crazy pentacostal one! And Lincoln loves it. Christy prayed onto me a little pentacostal baby, I joke and tell her all the time. He loves the music, the excitement, the people. I love the old men that make me feel like I’m sitting right back beside Papaw, and the old women dressed to the nines who I just know have sticks of Juicy Fruit in their purses. This Christmas, our kids aren’t getting piles and piles of gifts, but we are giving to others, spending nights playing board games around that old butcher block where my nativity sits, and focusing on the true meaning of Christmas. I feel so proud when my kids ask to read from their Bible story book, or watch their Bible story DVD. I feel a warmth in my heart when I see a new face in church, I’m sure just as mine once was, troubled and lost, and see them transform as the music starts and the sermon flows. My life has changed. My family has grown closer, and faith has been restored in all of us. All because God sent us a son, just as he did many years ago, in a little town called Bethlehem.